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It’s not often I get on my soap box but for this blog, I have dusted it off and I am going to stand on it loud and proud. Just recently I have been privy to some real first-hand parent shaming tactics.

It triggered a response in me so strong I felt compelled to share it. Here it is.

I am done with people telling me what I should and shouldn’t feed my kids, I am done with people passing comment on peoples’ parenting skills.

And I am most definitely done with being made to feel like an inadequate parent.


I truly believe that the vast majority of us are doing our best. We love our kids and we are desperately paddling trying to keep our heads above water. But let’s be honest some days this parenting sh*t is hard. I always say being a parent is the hardest job I have ever had, the stakes are so high. We love these little beings with all our heart. We do all we can to ensure they have all they need and more. But we are all human, we don’t always get it right and we don’t know what we don’t know.


Rather than criticise those who we feel aren’t doing a great job why not try to help them rather than isolate them.


I don’t know about you but there have been days when I felt like resigning from my role as a parent and running away with the circus. Oh, wait… I already live with the circus, it’s called family life.

Next time you see a parent whose child is having a meltdown at the shops or one who is feeding their kids crap remember that today probably isn’t their best day. Tomorrow they will get up and try again to be the best parent they can be. Good on them for trying. This parenting gig is hard. It’s made all the harder by the criticising self-proclaimed experts that feel they need to pass judgment or comment on someone else’s parenting. Thereby the grace of God go I. I have been the parent with the meltdown child and I have been the parent who is trying to entice their child to eat. There have been many people who have expressed their unwanted opinion about my parenting.

So I will finish with this.


There is no one who loves their children more than I do. I am devoted to them and I will be until the day I die.


But…. I am human. I am a mum who is trying her best and who is giving her all. If for some reason I fall short of your expectations then apologies. Please don’t express your thoughts and opinions about my parenting. They are my children, I am doing my best, and I absolutely have their best interests at heart. So cut me (and many others) some slack we don’t need criticising. We need helping and nurturing in the right direction.


We need a shining example, someone to aspire to and someone to hold our hand when the going gets tough.


Rather than expressing your damning criticism, hold out your hand and help someone along their parenting journey.

It’s a long old road that can often take unexpected twists and turns. Guide the way for others. Support those who are struggling. I don’t know one parent who hasn’t struggled on their parenting journey, it’s all part of the process.

That’s all for now. I think I can step down off my soapbox now I feel I have been heard, thanks for listening. I hope this message touches you like it’s touched me.

If you would like read about how Spirit can support you in your parenting journey, you can find my book here

Much love & Spirit sparkle,


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